9 INFJs Share One Thing To Know About Their Type

Ah, INFJs. The rarest and one of the most mysterious types. Ever wondered how to approach an INFJ if you ever found one in real life? Well, here are nine INFJs sharing what they want you to know about their personality type.


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"I need time to contextualize what I am feeling. I need quiet time (minutes or hours, depends) in order to pull everything together and actually know how I feel about a certain situation. So please, if I say I need some time to work this out, give me that time because I honestly do need that time to work it out inside of my mind."

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"I am not and do not think I am a special snowflake"

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"When I say I need time to myself I mean by myself. 
My mom drives me crazy. She seems to think going out and bring with people will relax me the way it does her.
No, just no. 
Me time is me, myself and I. 
Two is a crowd."

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"I don't take much pride in being super rare. It's more of a burden than anything else."

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"I don't really know myself very well. That what I think I have discovered about myself today might very well change by tomorrow."

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"You can't judge what I'm thinking or feeling by what happens to show or not to show... but if you ask me, I'll be honest, so stop doubting me."

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"Just because something is subjective doesn't mean it's not objective.
Introverted intuitive perceptions are easily dismissed by non-Ni types as 'subjective' or groundless because I can't point to anything in the world which supports what I'm saying. But if the inward structure or pattern I'm perceiving is something common to the inner-workings of all human beings then it's as 'objective' as anything."

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"Tell me what you need me to do. Give me a rough idea of how you'd like it done. Then, leave me alone. I promise you, my perfectionism will demand I do it the way you want, to a level that will leave me exhausted. Don't throw a task at me and walk away, then expect it to be what you had in mind. I will find the obvious issues with what you want, and I will automatically correct them, even if it leaves the finished product different from what you really wanted in the first place. Also, using Fe does not mean I am illogical or weak. Sorry, that's two things. My bad..."

MBTI Favorite Ways To Communicate

   Personality types can affect a lot of things. Favorite ways to solve a problem, favorite parties to attend, Favorite candy... well... maybe not that last one. Anyway, I got curious about each Myers Briggs types favorite way to communicate. I did some asking around, and here are some of their answers. 


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"I used to prefer text or online chat out of all types but in the last year or 2, I've come to prefer in-person communication, preferably one-on-one. I can read people better that way and establish a stronger rapport. I do need it to be short, though." - INFJ

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"Either in person direct. Or indirect just rambling in run on sentences here works. 
Text I am hit or miss. Only people I talk on the phone long with is my sister because she is long distance and my mom because she is a major home body. All and all not much of texter except to get to point about a plan or some crap. I dont do long winded texting convos. 
I am either direct one on one, or just indirect commentary usually." - ESTP


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"I talk mosly on the internet because I am mostly at home. Having a conversation to someone in real life is rare." - INTJ


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"Online chat/IM. I'm shy." - ISFJ


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"Telepathy 
I prefer written communication like emails or texts if possible." - INFJ


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"Okay my most preferred to the least preferred:
1. In person (because it's not one dimensional. You can see how the person behaves, his gestures, the way he talk, there's more of a connection and when you talk with someone like for just 1 hour versus texting someone for 1 hour.. Your stress and depression by talking face to face is gone. Like real human interaction removes depression. Reason why there's more depression these days is because of technology. The health benefits of real human interaction is replaced by texting.)
2. Call (because texting is a hassle)
3. Sign language xD (it's fun)
4. Text
5. Email (hassle lol)" - xSFP

"The fact that you put sign language above texting amuses me to no end." - Publisher (Bloxez Cola)


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In person because you can see their body language, you get an immediate response, and it's more confrontational which is interesting to use that word in this context, however, when you're behind a screen, you can put off messages, you can respond with more confidence or differently than you would in real life, etc. - ENTP

5 Reasons Your ESFP Tends To Vanish

   Have you ever wondered why the ESFP in your life sometimes spontaneously vanishes? Seriously though! Life is great, you two are having a good time, and then wham! Your ESFP pulls a batman on you and up and vanishes before your very eyes. Why do they do that? Well, wonder no more! Here are 5 reasons why your ESFP tends to vanish.

1. ESFPs have a need for the new. New people, places, experiences, you name it. If it is always the same conversation, with the same person, at the same place the ESFP will become bored. This is a problem because they tend to experience things in extremes. If things are good they are great, but if things are bad they are awful! This combined with the ESFP being focused mostly on the present means that they are all about finding that good time. If they get bored they are probably going to pull the batman cape out and disappear for a few days... or weeks...

2. ESFPs don't like feeling trapped. They value the freedom to choose who they want to talk to, what they want to do, where they want to go, and so on so forth. If a person is suppressing these freedoms, it is likely that the ESFP will want to vanish.

3. Most ESFPs don't do "best friends." This title often translates to, "you are the only person I talk to and all of your social free time is to be spent on me" which quite a mouth full and a really long title. The above reason makes this a problem. The title "best friend" can cause an ESFP to want to vanish if it is limiting those freedoms that we talked about earlier, and most of the time it is.

4. ESFPs can be forgetful. Because they are so present focused they can forgot commitments they made for the future. So if an ESFP flakes out on you, and it's not for one of the above reasons, they probably just forgot. Happens to everyone, right? Well... everyone except for ISTJs.

5. Something better could have come along. Now not all ESFPs are like this, but one generalization is that if something better comes along the ESFP will do that instead. It's not that they are trying to hurt you, or tell you that you are boring. It's just that ESFPs really value the present and the new. An opportunity like skydiving into a swimming pool filled with chocolate milk doesn't come around often you know.

   Now don't get me wrong, I am in no way advocating for the ESFPs tendency to vanish. Unless they actually are batman, and someone needs saving. What I was seeking to do here was give you an explanation as to why they do what they do. Hopefully, now you won't take it personal when your buddy disappears into the night like a superhero, or maybe you will see it coming and give them some space so they don't feel like they have to go poof.
   If you are that ESFP though.... you are being rude. Stop it. None of what I just said is an excuse for you to keep this up. If anything, it equipped you with the knowledge you need to deal with this bad habit. While the chocolate pool may not always be there, neither will your closest friends. So show them some love, and stick around.

8 INFPs Share Why Emotions Are Important To Them

   I recently had the opportunity to travel with a group of individuals, and most of them had different personality types. At the end of our travels one of the INFPs said, "I wish people would have talked about their emotions more." This lead me to wonder exactly how important emotions are to INFPs. So I asked a few, and here are what eight INFPs have to say about the importance of emotions. 

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"I devote so much attention to them because I'm trying to figure out what is happening to me. 
They make my life richer though."

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"When i feel something strongly, which i often do- it makes me feel that what i'm feeling is important, whether I like it or not- it's hard to ignore. I do tend to give the thoughts these feelings sometimes inspire a good mental punch in the face however, when I know they aren't helpful."

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"They're important because they make me who I am, at least I think they do.
I feel inseparable from them enough though I am sure there are great distinctions between the self and the emotions, I just haven't yet reached that point in life where I can distinguish the two"

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"Well, they are important to me because they add color to my existence, light to my day, and depth to perception."

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"What else is more important for individual humans? Emotions are the engines that drive everything else. Everything you do that's not pure bodily function, everything you are interested in, everything you want, is based on your emotions. You're bored with mathematics or fascinated by it. You love being around other people, or they frighten you. You build a fantasy world of fairies or football players in your mind, computers or pottery with your hands. Emotions are what define importance. They are the basis of who we are regardless of being "feelers" or "thinkers"."

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"Because I'd make a terrible xxTx"

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"Obligatory Jungian Feeling ≠ emotions. Emotions are signals. They tell us when needs are being met/violated, what is personally worthwhile to our experience beyond the necessities, or what are necessities for the spirit and not just survival. They are a reality of being human. You can't understand the truth of the human condition without exploring and unraveling emotions. Also, they indicate meaning and value. Sure, you could eat nourishing food with no flavor, but what's the fun in that? Emotions add flavor to life."


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I could look at a piece of art, for instance. When judging how much I like it I guess I'll give it points for technicality, even more points for message and thought behind. But if it manages to grab me emotionally in an unusual way, you've got me. Make me feel sorry for the child with the diamonds. Let me be spooked out by the happy little bunnies you painted playing in the field. Yes emotions can get in the way of tasks, work, etc and cause issues. But for me they also bring Colour and excitement.